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Last updated March 23, 2018
My 25 year old son checked in to Benchmark Transitions this past Thursday 2/25. My first impression is extremely positive. I was introduced to everyone who will be involved in my son’s treatment. I was given a tour of the facility and his schedule of treatment was discussed. The next day I received a phone call from my son and one of his mentors. I also received an email with information pertaining to the Family Bridge, a portal where parents and family members can write to their loved one at Benchmark. I see photos of my son enjoying hiking and positive activities with his peer group. It is so important to me that I am “in the loop” and know what is happening with my son (even if he is an adult at 25). He had gone to another rehab last year and that experience was very different. Though we had an appointment, we were kept waiting for hours. I was never introduced to the staff, the program was never discussed. I was told that I could not see the rooms. They seemed disorganized and overwhelmed. Benchmark does feel warm, caring and like a family. The 18-25 age group is perfect for us. Aside from addiction recovery, my son is learning vocational, educational and life skills (such as money management, career counseling). I will post again after 6 months. So far, I feel optimistic and relieved.
Thank you for your comment, Ms. Leitner. I encourage you to add similar comments at our pages about Benchmark.
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My child is a resident at Innercept in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho. It’s been several months and I am getting concerned. Their communication is consistently vague, despite my requesting information over and over from a lot of people. They seem to dislike questions about their methods or their reasons for doing things. They don’t seem transparent. I think that many staff seem to care, but there seems to be an attitude that parents are peripheral to the process, that Innercept knows best. That we should trust them even though we’ve known our child his entire life. Communication between staff does not seem to be clear, and sometimes doesn’t happen. It is often difficult to get a reply to an email. We are told when we can and cannot see our child. I am trying to find out if they can simply deliver on what they promised, but it is very difficult to pin down any exact answers. Very little progress and I’m concerned. The program seems insular, not open at all to feedback. Looking for any similar experiences?
I encourage you to continue this discussion on the pages about Innercept.
What you describe here is consistent with what prompted our concerns about Innercept, some years ago. We could not persuade the management of Innercept that they had an obligation to provide a treatment plan for our client that included objectively measurable and/ or decidable goals and objectives and reporting to us and to the family and then report to the family and to FamilyLight the progress that the client at issue was making in terms of those goals and objectives.
While we profoundly disagree with Innercept’s management on this matter we also want to affirm that we believe that the procedures Innercept was following was what they conscientiously believed was in the best interests of their clients. We understood that they believed that to provide the kind of treatment plan we believed was a basic standard in mental health services risked tying the hands of the treatment team, denying them the opportunity to adjust to future developments that could not be anticipated.
A bit more than a year ago, a consultant whom we strongly respect and admire asked us to eliminate our negative commentary on this website regarding Innercept. Her position appeared to be that if the shortcomings we listed on our website ever existed, corrections had been made and our criticisms were, at best, not current. We responded that we were glad to hear that. However since Innercept management had cut off communication when we raised these issues in our position as consultant to a family with a young woman in their care. We went on to say, that even if the procedures in the program had been adjusted to the better, we simply could not lend our reputation to this facility until it became clear that Innercept management would keep communication open in response to professionally appropriate criticism. Our bottom line was that if our report is to be removed or revised to be more positive, at the very least, we needed to hear from Innercept management.
We never heard from Innercept management. After waiting a reasonable amount of time we went back to the consultant at issue and invited her to write a response to our review expressing strong disagreement. She never provided that.
In general we believe Innercept is operated with integrity but we cannot put our reputation behind referrals to them until we can have open communication even in times of disagreement with reporting on clients in a concrete manner. Sue’s comments do remind us of our own observations of this program so many years ago.
Sue, you are in a very difficult position. People with mental health issues need to be connected to friends and family who do not function according to the “Drama Triangle.” Our experience is that the managers at Innercept retreat to the Drama triangle when faced with any kind of criticism. You will need to be very careful and deliberate as you proceed, in order to challenge appropriately, without joining Innercept on the Drama Triangle.
Readers: Please add your own thoughts on this, preferably on the “Innercept” page or the “Innercept — Introduction” page.
Hello. I am considering Innercept for my immature 14 year old son. Primary diagnoses are High Functioning Autism, Depression, Anxiety and OCD. His dominant issue is using suicidal ideation when he feels rejected in social encounters with peers. His dominant need is social cognition education. He has deep attachment issues and tends to fall apart when separated from family. I’m interested in a program that really promotes communication /integration with the family and worry based on comments.
Would appreciate any insight from this community . . .
I suggest you also leave a note on the Innercept full review and Innercept Introduction pages.
I’m having some difficulty getting a clear picture here. “Depression, Anxiety” allow a very wide range of severity. OCD is usually not diagnosed as a separate concern when Autism is present (even very high functioning autism), as autism often expresses itself through OCD-like symptoms. Depression and anxiety often accompany Autism but are likely to be diagnosed separately. “Attachment” means different things to different clinicians.
When we at FamilyLight regularly referred to Innercept, the primary relevant factor at Innercept that prompted that choice was that Dr. Ullrich had (and we believe still has) privileges at the nearby psychiatric hospital. To the best of my recollection we never referred anyone there apart from presenting information that suggested a significant risk that psychiatric hospitalization would be needed and continuity of care would be maintained. At that time, we would not have suggested that Innercept should not be considered apart from that situation but I don’t recall it being our first recommendation apart from that factor.
I am especially concerned about Innercept for you, given this: “I’m interested in a program that really promotes communication /integration with the family.” Unless you can speak with other parents who can confirm that this is no longer an issue with Innercept, I suggest caution. Ask Innercept Admission for parent references, then contact the parents they suggest. When you speak to the parents they suggest, ask them for contact information of additional references, not suggested by Innercept. If they tell you this is no longer an issue, listen to them.
I can say firmly that at no time would we have considered Innercept for a person with an RAD or DSED diagnosis.
As you describe your son, I would consider the following programs. Please note that it is not possible that all of these programs are appropriate. We are giving a range of programs based on both what you have said and what we do not know. Hopefully, at least one would be worthy of consideration along with Innercept:
Black Mountain Academy
Heritage Community Note conflict of interest statement ; probably Peers Academy within Heritage
I hope this is helpful.
I was wondering, are you able to indicated updated reviews or new school reviews in an easier to find manner? Also, how do new schools get on your radar? There are a few I’ve heard of that you haven’t reviewed (or reviewed recently) and I was curious. Thanks!
We have had a period of few updates due to illness. We will be updating very soon.